This is a really long standing issue in our society. But rather than get bogged down in the history of it, I’m just going to focus on today’s problems concerning sexism.
Sexism, as I like to define it, is the judgment and prejudice of a person due to their gender. Examples of this range from jokes about women drivers, to serious concerns of the difference in average wages between men and woman. The plight of the independent women is a well sung tune, and one that I’m sure I’ll die hearing. The real question is, how do we change this? How do we achieve true gender equality? Prominent politicians like Rick Santorum and all their many supporters seem unwilling to even consider changing this, to grant more freedom to women. And they won’t change their minds. The problem I find with some Civil Rights activists is that they focus WAY too much on changing people’s opinions. That will not work. Most people, especially adults, are so adamant in their beliefs that they will never change them. The real solution is a more personal approach. Instead of trying to change the world, instead stay steadfast with your beliefs, and try to change those around you. You don’t need to look nationally to find sexism that needs fixing, you can just look at some of your closest friends. So that’s my request to anyone who reads this. work on fixing your own views and your friends and families’ views on gender equality. As previously mentioned, the largest problem facing gender equality is sexism. Now, you have to understand that sexism cuts both ways. Not only does it usually manifest itself in the view that women are fragile, delicate, helpless kittens that need to be lead by the stronger male, but also that men are heartless brutes who only want sex and don’t care who they hurt to get it. I have a good friend who advocates feminism, but at the same time makes posts about how all men are the same and want to get into her pants. That’s bullshit. You can’t ask for equal rights and appreciation while at the same time denying them to someone else. As what I consider an empathetic man, I am deeply offended when people say that kind of stuff. I don’t really look for sex in my female friends who clearly aren’t interested because I’m a nice person and I care about them. And these statements saying that men don’t do that are harmful on so many levels. Number one, it gives men who are sex crazed and jerks an excuse to act like that. Don’t encourage that kind of behavior in people. Also, that sexism makes nice guys like me feel subconsciously like we’re doing something wrong. So when we strive for the end to sexism, it goes both ways. We need to stop judging people based on their gender, and start judging them on their character.
I’ll be putting another post like this up tomorrow, hopefully it’ll be better than this one. As the week progresses, these topics will be getting more and more personal to me, so hopefully more interesting. And no, I don’t blog on weekends, so if I don’t write all the topics I want by Friday, it’ll be continued next week.